Mental Health has become a huge focal point over the last several years; from advocates such as Prince Harry, to Olympic Medallist Clara Hughes. Whether you are rich, poor, healthy or ill, every single person has their own mental/emotional challenges, which are often not apparent to others, because they are not physical. These are the trials and tribulations we carry around in our minds. Our fears, apprehensions and anxieties, jumbled in with our hopes, dreams and goals. We seem to somehow have created a world for ourselves of unrealistic expectations, some often unattainable, while we struggle to maintain those that are.
A number of years ago, after doing a group of readings, I learned that one young man I had read was on the brink of suicide, and had apparently stated to a close friend prior to his reading, “if I don’t hear at least one positive thing in my reading that gives me a light at the end of the tunnel, that’ll be it for me. I won’t be here tomorrow.”
During his reading, although I saw his present loneliness, despair, and deep sadness. I saw his future full of love, laughter and happiness, which I shared with him.
I told him of the new love who would be coming into his life, the children he would have, and the shift in career and finances I saw in the very near future for him. He said it sounded like a wonderful ‘fairy tale’, but he honestly couldn’t see any of those things happening for him.
His friend, who had been waiting anxiously outside, asked hesitantly how it went. This young man shook his head, repeated his statement about how unlikely my information seemed, but decided that perhaps he should stick around a little bit longer, “just to prove me wrong.”
That little statement became his light at the end of the tunnel.
Shortly after his reading he did indeed meet the young woman I had described to him, ultimately ended up marrying her and had three beautiful children. He did shift his career to a venue that he was much better suited to, which also improved his finances significantly.
I ran into him a number of years later and he thanked me. He also said it unnerved him to think back to what he almost did, and realize what he would have missed, not to mention the pain he would have caused those he loves the most.
Even when things seemed totally hopeless for him and he felt helpless to change his life, he mustered up enough wherewithal to attend a function, where he met his wife. He chose to alter his limiting career path into something far more conducive to his abilities. He elected to stick around awhile longer to see how his life would actually unfold.
We all go through those highs and lows to varying degrees. Often, we can’t control what life throws at us, but we can control how we allow it to impact us, and more importantly, how we set out to change it. When things seem their bleakest and we feel lost in the darkness of that tunnel, it’s just continuing to take those baby steps forward and feel our way along, that ultimately brings us out of the tunnel and back into brightness again. If you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, create one for yourself to fixate on, as this young man did. Then start making small choices and decisions – baby steps. He chose to attend something he didn’t want to go to. That one small step forward set the wheels in motion that changed his life.
Find someone who can be that light for you and tell them what you’re feeling and what you’re going through. It all starts with a conversation and anyone you feel comfortable enough to trust with your feelings, cares enough to listen.
Clairvoyant, Medium, Author, Speaker
‘Connecting and understanding spirit, both living and passed’