The basis of my life’s work has involved people wanting to connect to loved ones on the other side. The messages come in all forms, from enthusiasm about actually ‘making it’ to the other side as if a great race was just won; to utter astonishment and joy at being reunited with long-passed pets who were adored on this side.

I have had parents apologize for the abuse and neglect they inflicted, and the sudden awareness of the long-term pain, suffering and struggle it caused to their own child or family, who they were supposed to love and protect.

On many occasions I have had passed loved ones needing to describe the details of their passing in an effort to provide closure and comfort to family who are still struggling. I have also had those on the other side reprimand someone living and use the session to ‘get their final say’.

One message in particular will always remain as perhaps one of the strangest I received over the years:

Several years ago I dealt with a very nice man in his late fifties. Although primarily a reading, I did ask toward the end of the session if this man’s brother could express his thoughts from the other side. The man nodded. “I’m not sure what he has to say to me personally but I can just imagine what he might need to say about one or two others,” he replied.

“I don’t know if this makes sense to you,” I said, “but he’s talking about problems with his grave and he is very upset. Your brother is acknowledging a very large sacrifice you made for him. At the same time he’s ranting about his son, and his son’s greed and inability to accept any of the responsibilities for your brothers’ affairs after his passing. I can only relay this message word for word…your brother says he’s in the wrong grave!!!”

The man shook his head and began to chuckle as I asked if any of the message made sense to him.

“It certainly does,” he replied nodding emphatically as he shared the full story with me.

It seemed that the brothers’ son was the sole beneficiary and executor of his father’s large estate, however this son and only child refused to pay for the funeral arrangements or any other arrangements, yet he happily ‘pilfered’ the assets.

My client explained that he did not have additional funds to pay for his brother’s funeral, but he and his wife already owned burial plots. My client gave up his own plot so his brother could at least be buried.

He wasn’t quite sure how he was going to acquire funds for another plot for himself, but he obviously had more time to work on that than his deceased brother. Herein lay the issue with the wrong grave, some very harsh words spoken from the other side about the entire situation, nothing but disgust for a very selfish son and an incredibly deep heartfelt thank you for the sacrifice his brother made.

Of course in this line of work, I’m always moved by the messages received and the comfort that they bring to my clients. However the following story is to-date the most moving session I’ve had…

The session began as a reading but quickly turned to a medium session when the woman’s son, who had passed nineteen years earlier at the age of 22, asked to be acknowledged. Wiping her tears away, the woman explained that it was the anniversary of her son’s death and she hadn’t planned on seeing me but felt compelled to come.

Her son asked her to listen as he proceeded to describe the car accident that took his life. He explained the sensations he felt during the impact and the passing, and the areas of his body that received the most critical injuries. He reassured her that he did not suffer. His body went into shock, mercifully providing a numbness. She needed to know that.

As this young man spoke to his mother he described ‘an Angel’ coming down and lifting him out of the wreckage. She cradled him gently, explaining what had happened to his physical body and why he couldn’t go back to it. As the ‘Angel’ embraced him, she reassured him that he was where he was supposed to be and she would take care of him.

He watched police and paramedics extract his physical body from the car and work fruitlessly to resuscitate him. It was apparent to all who were working on him that with the severity of his injuries, successfully reviving him was inconceivable.

The session with the woman lasted for about thirty minutes, at which time she told me she could feel her sons’ energy while I was talking and that it was the first time in those long anguishing nineteen years that she had felt a true sense of peace and acceptance with his passing.

The woman’s husband contacted me three days later to express his gratitude, as it was the first time in those nineteen years that his wife had been able to sleep without medication and for the first time in nineteen years he felt he had his wife back.

Both stories and messages reflect why I do what I do. By connecting and relaying, those who are struggling with their loss may receive some form of peace and comfort in the words that are spoken from the other side.

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‘Connecting and understanding spirit, both living and passed’


  1. You could definitely see your enthusiasm within the article you write.
    The arena hopes for more passionate writers like you who aren’t afraid to mention how they believe.
    At all times go after your heart.


    1. Thank you so much for your kind words! If we’re not speaking from the heart or about what we believe, we’re not only doing ourselves a disservice but a disservice to others who agree with us as well! 🙂


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